As we arrive in 2023
…Some journeys continue, new journeys begin, and other are coming to an end.
2022 is in our rearview mirror and for many of us the tendency is to declare “a new me” for 2023 or start the year with drastic life changes that are not sustainable and that end only in our own disappointment of self which in-turns steals our motivation and creates this narrative of failure.
While there is nothing wrong with making plans and declaring to become better versions of ourselves true change requires much more than just declarations, they require planning, acceptance for where you are financially, emotionally, mentally and physically. They require taking inventory of your time and resources and also require true self-reflection on some of the reasons why you want to change. Change and the motivation to change must begin with YOU.
It is okay if you are still working on a goal, not yet realized; stick with it. Remember the learning occurs during the journeying process, the destination is the reward. Take time to pause, smell the flowers, meet people reflect on what things mean about yourself and the people around you. Allow yourself the time to grow and mature, and don’t rush the process; you will appreciate the destination so much more.
For those of us who are beginning something new. It’s going to be scary, there will be apprehension, doubts and anxiety. During these beginning steps, remember it is okay to ask for help, especially from someone who has already traveled a similar path. Remember a miss step is not a failing or failure, but it is part of the learning. The advantage you have is that you have asked for help from someone that’s been there, which will minimize some of those mistakes. Minimize not eliminate.
And finally to those of us that are so close to their goal, that thing they have been working at and journeying through DON’T GIVE UP NOW. Sometimes towards the end it feels like we are pushing a boulder up a hill. This is a critical point because it is during this time most people are tempted to throw in the towel. Keep in mind, the reward is in arms reach. You will have to dig deep, but it will be worth it. All the time you’ve invested, all the tears, all the late nights will be represented in that accomplishment, get focused.
Your mental well-being is vital in any and all of the stages mentioned above. Here are a some practical practices that will help you with maintaining good mental health and in so help you achieve your goals:
Connect with people- we need eachother and we need community.
Get that body moving- regular exercise increases endorphins and helps us feel good about our bodies overall
Prayer/meditation- Prayer has been proven even in secular circles to improve anxiety and depression.
Gratitude lists- Remembering the good things, how far you have come and learned so far.
Volunteering- Take time to volunteer your time. Helping others always helps us appreciate our own circumstances and knowing that we were the answer to someone else’s need helps us to feel purposeful.
